Desire for unconventional managers, with conventional process

(First of all I respect our education system and have faith in it. This is the education system which developed me and let me become whatever I am today. We can always debate is it less or more that what should have been? But I am pretty happy with who I am.)


There was always one major point most of the leading B Schools were talking about and that is they want unconventional managers. And that is what they are supposed to do I guess. That’s the difference between a Top B school and an average one. This desire was very much visible with current changes in CAT so that non-engineers may compete with engineers in Quantitative aptitude and non-convent students may compete with convent students in Verbal ability. Also there are other criteria which give similar indications such as importance given to being a non engineer or being a girl or diversity in general.

Everything is good and fair if it is actually improving the quality of managers that we are going to get. But let’s just understand other side of story. What is not yet done? How many of us really knew what they wanted to do from childhood. At least not I or even most of people around me didn’t know that. It used to change with circumstances. When my teacher used to scold me for something, I always dreamt of becoming headmaster someday to have control over him. When entire village was going crazy over new doctor that came to our village I thought I also want same praise and I thought of becoming a doctor. When I heard about how much a peon in government office, I had not even imagined myself in his shoes. When my father took me to a politician’s rally who came to our district in helicopter, I was close to contest next election against him before realising I was not eligible to do so .When I heard from many of my relatives in various family functions about a cousin, that how much he earns and everybody trying to fix his marriage with a girl from his or her side, I wanted to be a CA.

What I want to state is that an average Indian is not very sure of what he wants to do. In schooling mostly he is forced to study because ‘4 log kya kehenge’ dialogue from family or at most he himself wants to beat someone in terms of rank. And without a goal being set, the process can’t be good. So isn’t it unfair to a person who was just himself in school days and wished to do something afterwards from bottom of his heart but isn’t allowed. And why is that? Just Because he doesn’t have very attractive score card in 10th!!

Let’s just understand from other point of view, for a person who was from not so good educational background, aren’t you ignoring a complete set of people. Also a person who was from a state board, let’s take Maharashtra board of old time and if you want to consider someone worst, let’s take an example of Bihar board. Everyone knows that in Bihar board when you score 70%, it’s like you are in heaven. How can you compare him to an average student of ICSE who scored 80-90%.


Also a very good point expected from a manager is that he must always rise after a fall. When you are not allowing a set of people on the basis of what he was, then you are ignoring people who can eventually turn out to be very good managers. There are various other ways if you want to check someone’s sincerity. There are many institutes which conducts many other tests than QA and VA if they feel this need. And If a person is really willing to achieve something, will take efforts to achieve it.

Moral of the story:

Come on IIM, just chill bro! Even my mom has stopped nagging me about my 10th marks! 😀


Bright future or heartless future

This was two months back, when I just called my mom in the afternoon. Usually I don’t call her in the noon but that day I felt like calling her. As soon as she received my call she started crying. I wasn’t getting what happened. And that made me tenser. After sometime she calmed down and told me ‘Your grandpa passed away’. Again she started crying. That time I just realised that my grandfather (Mother’s father) passed away, that’s it. My mind had taken that as factual data taken by a intellectual system. I wasn’t getting how to try, what all I did was asked her to calm down.

It was not possible for me to go there that day. But we have separate importance of third day, so I booked tickets for next day. Then one of senior asked me what happened, I told him the same. Then he replied, “Your own grandfather?” I said, “Yes, why are you asking me like that?” then he said, “You don’t appear that sad”. I didn’t know what to reply. Then at the end of the day , I was telling another senior that I have taken two days holidays, he told me , “ Tell me real reason?” I told her the same. “do you reply such things with a smile ?”  I felt bit angry  about Why everyone is judging me when they don’t know anything. But simply told her “ He was old and had equivalent to zero support. It’s good for him that he died with good health rather than falling sick for months.”

When I reached there, it was early morning. Some close relatives were present there. When I was meeting anyone, he/she was crying. I was feeling a deep gap inside. I never broke out my composure as everyone was looking at me as emotional support. I was talking to my aunts, cousins. Then when I met my mom, she was completely broken by the incident. And when I was talking to her I wasn’t able to control myself, but somehow I did. In whole scenario I saw my grandmother (Naniji) many times from distance but hadn’t dared to go near her. Her eye operation was done just 6 days back. She was sitting there with those black spectacles. She wasn’t even allowed to cry on demise of her most beloved person, whom she loved for 75 years.

Finally when I found myself alone, I cried. I cried as much as I could.

Actually when I compare this situation with demise of my paternal grandfather, when I was 14 I see many differences. I was totally in shock when he passed. Hadn’t ate anything for 2 days. And most importantly I still feel his presence in my home. I wasn’t that practical that time. Did I became practical with age? I may have been. But I find some other reason for it. I was there with my family, when my paternal grandfather left me. Now I have been away for 10 years from my home. I get holidays twice or thrice a year and that time I get only enough time to meet my family. So those going to relatives in your holidays has alomost lost somewhere in childhood. So I met him (maternal grandfather) few times, say once a year.

Similar situation had happened one and half year back when I was in college I came to know that my sister’s marriage has been fixed. I was totally happy. It was only when I visited my home that I realised she won’t be there next. That lonely feeling, I can’t describe in words.




May be every one of us have heard long distance don’t work. And second thing we may have heard from some wise people that every relationship is about love. So does that mean all relations are affected by distance? My answer is yes. You can ask any of my friends from college, it would matter in which hostel we were staying. If we were staying in different hostel then even a friends who was your room mate for two years start losing touch. Obviously that is very much true for my school friends. I have shifted my place five times in last ten years. It was easy initially to be in touch with school friends. But as time grew we had our own priorities, schedules and that being busy tag. Subjects we used to talk about were no more interesting and those which sounds interesting are awkward to talk of, as we never shared thoughts of that type.

My distant relatives, who I just know of as relatives and don’t even remember name of that uncle or aunt when he/ she asks me. How I am supposed to connect with them. But I see my father or mother gets connected with them. It’s not that they meet them every day, they too meet them once or twice a year. But they are living in that world. I am living in two different worlds. One in which I want to live, where ‘my’ people are there, where I become what I want to be, but can’t live. Where I actually lives, for my education, for job, for those need which are necessary to live even if they don’t allow my life I want to live.

So how this staying away does affects us. I disconnect us with all our relatives, most importantly family. Why all of sudden we see western culture taking sharp rise in Indian society? Because mainly what we used to be proud of , called as Sanskars are less important than being able to talk in English, many parents just stop talking their mother tongue so that child gets accustomed to English easily. Now it has become more important to sing or dance when a relative comes to your home, rather than showing affection what you have. If you don’t he/ she himself/ herself will ask , “ise dance class nahi bhej rahe .,., (like what a shame it is) maine to apane guddu ko 4 mahine pehle se bhejana chalu kar diya and ab kya dance karti wo ‘sheila ki jawani’ pe kya batau aapko”. Now going to some sports class in evening has become more important than freely roaming around in home. Hardly kids get time to be in home. They are just in home for sleeping and having food as if they are in PG. and in holidays it has become more important to go to a summer camp than going to uncle’s (Mama’s) place.

With so much demand, the rural Indians don’t want to fall behind in this race. They too want their kids to be as ‘smart’ as their urban ‘rivals’. Worst situation occurs when they send their child to a boarding at very early age. Because otherwise they would be getting late to crack for IITs, AIMS. CAs, etc. One thing that I have observed in many kids living around me, or whom I had talk with, I don’t see that affection in their eyes for family. Even asked a some parents, “what if he grows up very well, but don’t have affection for you?” most of them were reluctant to answer, some just answered ‘its need of time’ other said ‘it won’t happen’. Only one uncle answered that he will be happy if his son grow up in life even if he don’t remember him. I met his son. He was living away from his family from nursery. When he visits his home. He is busy with books, because he don’t know what he should talk all the while with his parents or sisters.

I agree that time is changing. But is that case that a kid who grew up in village have no chance to compete with others? Is that a case that a kid who hasn’t been to convent and studied in other language has no chance to stand up? How many gets really advantage of learning some music or sports when their parents only ask them to leave that hobby as they grow up? I may agree that for graduate degree you may have to stay away, as that would change your life. But some may fight that for it they have to be in good coaching. I guess everyone who had been to very good college will agree that it had very little to do with from coaching classes than their self-study. In my region culture is building to ask kids to live at Pune or Hyderabad or Kota for preparation? What percent of people from Kota gets selected? I guess more students get distracted from their path than even getting onto a right track, leave achieving it aside. Ok even if agreed for it, is it necessary to force your kids from 5th or 6th to have a vision for entrance exam he will be facing after 5-7 years?


I agree that it’s been a competent world. But having feelings and affection is equally important. We are not robots. Only thing which makes us different from advanced robots is emotions. Please don’t kill them.

Autowallas and the city

Autowalla person who will break traffic rules most often, may be reason for many minor accidents which happen in the city, a part of quarrel, a person with whom everyone tries to bargain cause its primary thought that he will be demanding more. But at the same time they are ‘bhaiiya’ to everyone, they are the one who will lose their sleep in the nights, suffer from heat in summer, or cold in winters so that you should suffer that condition least. Also many a times when no one will dare to come forward like in case of accidents or to become witness in courts, they are the one who will stood by. And we have heard of many autowallas while having less income, living in slums but still have helpline in case of accidents.

Autowallas are one of the person we first meet when we visit any place. And many times they decide what we think of that city , cause we know first impression is the last impression.

This was the thought, I had in my mind long back when I went to Ludhiana in Punjab (india). I went there for winter training in second year of my engineering. It was December and obviously weather was too cold in Punjab. I reached there by 4.30 AM, was not having any idea of that place. I thought of taking a room in some hotel for 1-2 days and then search for PG for month if possible. As soon as I came out of station like every other place autowallas came to me and were asking me ‘chalo bhaiyya’, ‘kaha jana hai’ and some of them were directly taking bag from me.finally I told them that I want to rent a hotel room near by, no of rickshaw-wala reduced to half. One of them told me that I have to take cycle-rickshaw if I want to go near by place.  Generally scene is auto rickshaw-wala will ask you, “it will take too much time by cycle riksha, we will take rent as they do”. But here they themselves were asking me to take cycle rickshaw , so was first ever this type of experience.i started bargain with cycle-rikshaw-wala there for some time, finally hired one at 40 rupees.

I asked him ,”at what rent I will get a normal hotel with good facility?”

He :you will get a normal hotel room at 300-400 rupees, as rent is not problem here, but its winter so getting a room is problem

I:  why ?

He : don’t you know, Ludhiana is one of most important hub for woollen cloths

Frankly speaking I was not knowing that but still replied

I : I know that, but then you may having more hotels here right

He : then you should have more money

So I was silent for sometime. But he himself started conversation by telling me about different roads and shops on the way. Then he took me to some hotel and came inside with me. I thought may be he is having some connection with hotel manager for commission that’s why he is coming with me. Then we asked for room, manager told us that all rooms are occupied but one of the room will get vacated till 6:00 AM. And if the person is not asleep we will request him to see rrom and then you decide. I was ok with that. So we went to that room and luckily the person inside wasn’t asleep so I checked that room, hardly bed was fitted inside it, had to use attach bathroom which was also not in good condition. But still I asked him about rent , he told me  600 rupees, before i could reply something rikshawala with me replied me in mix Punjabi+hindi , “I know rooms are not available but still you are asking for too much”. Hotel manager was not in mood to decrease his price for the room so we left the hotel. When we came outside rikshawala took my luggage put that in it and said, “lets go to another one’. Frankly speeking I had just asked him to take me to some hotel while hiring him.


Then we went to another hotel where he replied that he don’t have any room empty but his brother also has a new hotel where we will find a room. So we went to that hotel- ‘hotel satguru’. It was at a bit longer distance from the hotel we had enquired in. Rooms were available there so finally I took a room there. I had my luggage in riksha so after taking keys from manager I went to riksha to take my luggage. There I paid him 40 rupees, I was expecting he will say ‘pay more’ or something. But he said nothing. So asked him,”I had asked you to leave me to any hotel but you came with me till I dont finalise a room and hadn’t even asked for more money, why it is so?” he replied,”you are new to my city, if these people had looted you, you may had wrong thoughts about my city.” There was proud feelings in his eyes and words were strong when he said my city. I was really happy with his answer and paid him more money. I was replying that he had not done that for money, but I insisted so finally he agreed. Before leaving he told me to take share-autos in two steps to save money and explained the rout.

I took some rest for half an hour , then had bath. Then left for company. I took a share auto from hotel to one stop rikshwala told me. I asked for rent he replied 10 rupees.  Everyone was getting ready at that time and was going to office, schools , colleges. That was really a good morning in Punjab. I was so busy observing Punjabi girls that I didn’t know when my stop came. Autowala told me that this is your stop , so unboard the auto and while paying him asked from where I will get auto for MIDC, so he asked me where I wanted to go. I told him MIDC only, so he told me I am going in same direction. Come with me. I again boarded that auto, then he left me at one stop and asked me to take cycle riksha to the company. I was forwarding him a 10 more rupees, without knowing the rent till that stop. But he himself told me that I wold have taken 10 rupees from you if you had asked me for this stop too, so need of that.

I was really amazed with this kind of behavior from autowallas there in Ludhiana. Training place was not very good, guides were just for namesake, and living was problem, had no good hotel nearby. So I finally left Ludhiana within 2 days without completing the training. But still when I think of that city I have a positive view about city and the people there. Also it was well managed one.



Then I started thinking on this topic. When someone comes to my village, which is taluka place now for namesake (Sengaon Dist.hingoli) most of the times they wont find a rickshaw so they will complain that  your village don’t even have basic facilities. How its taluka place anyway. But if you are lucky sometimes you will find rickshaw, and even if you tell him the name of a person he will take you there without further asking for address cause here in village most people knows about most of others. So you get to know that people still have some kind of bond with each other.

When you go to Kota, Rajasthan and hire a auto, first thing you will notice that he will ask for much higher price if you are going to Vigyan nagar or talwandi area. Also he will support this price decision by telling you distance in kilometers. So this easily shows that people there will loot you if you are going for education purpose and they clearly know parents are ready spend any amount for under the banner ‘education of child’. Also you get to know that people there are smart and use various terms for marketing purpose. When you are going for class and are late, even share autos who ask for 5 rupees from normal person to go from Vigyan nagar to IL square will ask for 20 or 30 rupees if he see you running and notice that you are late. So clearly indicates people are opportunistic.

When you go to Darephal , again very small village in parbhani district having around 100 houses may be. Bus will leave you on road form where the village is around 2.5 km. Obviously for this very small village they cant have auto cause from any bus hardly one person will stop there. So running auto rickshaw for one person will be costly. So there they have turned bikes into passenger vehicle. This clearly indicates never dying attitude of people there, where generally people from villages and talukas are moving to districts , from districts and towns to metro cities saying there aren’t enough facility, people here are doing creating work without complaining and no one is sad about ignorance of government towards village, I hope it exists on government register.

When you go to Jamshedpur in Jharkhand district, you may ask for auto for first time and pay him just like other cities. But you will come to know about share autos immediately once you start living there for sometime. Share autos there are really cheap , you can go from any point in city to another in 5 to 12 rupees ( 1 year back ), you will find another auto coming , as soon as first one leaves. This shows that if you want comfortable life it’s a option available, but this city knows how to save money, this city knows to co-operate, life here is real fast and it never stops.

Right now I can recollect these cities matching with behavior of rickshaw-wala there, if you can tell us about any of similar stories of correct above one, we will be real happy.

VP – Netmeds, IIM Lucknow, VNIT Nagpur

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